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Hey there, friend. Let's talk about something that doesn't get enough shine: Dating Yourself! Yup, you heard me right. Take yourself out, show up for YOU, and pour into your own cup because the reality is that the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship in your life.
Why It Matters
Before you even think about swiping right or diving into a relationship, you deserve to know what it feels like to feel valued, loved, and appreciated—by YOU. Practicing self-love and self-kindness reminds you that you are worthy, regardless of your relationship status. When you treat yourself well, you set the standard for how others should treat you.
But it's not just about bubble baths and spa days (though those are cool, too); it's about building trust with yourself, learning what you enjoy, and connecting with that inner child who still gets excited about new experiences.
So, let's break it down. Here's your simple, step-by-step guide to dating yourself in Charlotte—without breaking the bank.
Step 1: Take Yourself to Lunch or Brunch
We all know that brunch is practically a love language. You deserve to enjoy a good meal without waiting on anyone else's schedule. Bring a book, people-watch, or sit and enjoy your own company.
Affordable Charlotte Spots:
Amelie's French Bakery – This great French-style bakery with a relaxed vibe.
Optimist Hall– A local food court with tons of varieties
Summit Coffee – Grab a pastry and latte for a chill solo morning.
Pro Tip: Take advantage of weekday lunch specials for lower prices.
Step 2: Movie Date… Party of One
Going to the movies solo is an underrated experience. There is no sharing popcorn, no small talk, just you, the screen, and your snacks.
Affordable Options:
Regal Cinemas Value Days (Tuesday discounts)
AMC Discount Tuesdays
Ayrsley Grand Cinema – Often cheaper than other theaters
Cinergy Dine-In Cinemas - Enjoy dinner and a movie
Or keep it free: Check out Movies in the Park during warmer months (check Charlotte on the Cheap for updated listings).
Step 3: Move Your Body
Physical activity is a love letter to your future self. Movement helps with stress and anxiety and gets you in tune with your body. But it doesn't have to be a full-on gym grind unless that's your thing.
Affordable & Free Options:
Class Pass (Free Trial): Try yoga, Pilates, or spin classes without committing. Sign up here: https://www.classpass.com
Little Sugar Creek Greenway: Perfect for walking, jogging, or biking.
Free Yoga at Romare Bearden Park (check seasonal schedules on Charlotte on the Cheap: https://www.charlotteonthecheap.com)
Step 4: Try Something New – Inner Child Edition
Remember when you were a kid and tried new things just because? Let's bring that back. Give yourself permission to be curious without judgment.
Ideas:
Pottery or Art Class: Clay works has affordable workshops.
Dancing Mindfulness or Free Dance: Put on your playlist at home and move however you feel. No rules!
Discovery Place Science: Who said it's just for kids?
Bookstores like Park Road Books – Get lost on the shelves.
Step 5: Speak Kindly to Yourself
Dating yourself also means treating yourself like someone you care about. That inner dialogue matters. Practice self-compassion:
Talk to yourself like you would a best friend.
Celebrate small wins.
If you feel awkward on a solo outing, remind yourself "It's okay, you deserve this time".
Self-love is a journey, not a destination. Some days, you'll feel amazing, and other days, you might struggle. Both are okay. The goal is to consistently show up for yourself.
Final Thought
When you learn to enjoy your own company, you become your own best friend. That kind of self-love is magnetic. And when the right relationship comes along, you'll enter it from a place of wholeness, not emptiness.
Now, get out there and date the most important person in your life: YOU.
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